Don't Cry for Amber Frey
Kerry Marsala

The whole Scott Peterson trial is revolting. How anyone could be more obdurately detached from their spouses' death and that of their own child is enough to make anyone sick. For me, the last straw of this mockery of justice was when Amber Frey began her testimony. Listening to her and to those who support her has me pleading -- enough with this empty headed woman named Amber Frey.

Ms. Frey, if I were you I would be embarrassed about my lifestyle. Who in their right mind goes out on a blind date to a bar and then a of couple hours' later winds up in bed with someone they've just known for all of two hours? Evidently, people like Peterson and Frey do. Where is the self-respect? What happened to sensible choices?

We have a woman who has just met a guy on a blind date. After a little dinner and a little dancing they go and have a little sex in the hotel room. Not only is this completely brainless for any woman, single or single with a child (Ms. Frey has a little girl she's supposed to be raising responsibly) but did she ever consider the guy she's having sex with could possibly be someone who is a pathological liar and may have murdered his wife and son? Where are her brains? Why the lack of self worth?

Do people go around flippantly having sex with strangers? Isn't sex with strangers just like prostitution? Ms. Frey was just paying her dinner bill wasn't she? Was there no thought given to the possibility that she might have ended up alone with a mass murderer in a hotel room? How many unthinking people have received their "fifteen minutes of fame," on the next day's newscast -- murdered in a similar situation? They were no longer in one piece... part of them was in the dumpster, part buried in a shallow grave, part never found--THINK about it!

Ms. Frey stated she felt that the relationship with Peterson, all within a few days, was moving from just sex to something more serious. What happened to developing a relationship based on getting to know each other first -- before we play horizontal mambo? Evidently for a certain percentage of people, they begin with sex first and then perhaps decide to develop it into something a bit deeper. How does this make humans any different from animals?

The judgements get worse. After her second date with Scott Peterson, she gives Peterson a car seat, the keys to her house, and asks him to pick up her daughter at day care.

Ms. Frey is far from being a struggling, poor victim. She's a person who repeatedly lacks the common sense. The use of hormones to guide one's self from relationship to relationship is deadly. Too many people want to believe what they want to believe. Sure Peterson is a liar, and a good one, but I'll never cry for Amber Frey -- she needs to develop self-esteem and a brain. Not only for her own self-preservation, but for that of her child.

The pity party ain't happening Ms. Frey. We haven't any reason to cry for you, -- you're an adult... the only shedding of tears I'll be doing is for your child, if you do not get your life together, and soon.

K L. Marsala is a commentator on social, cultural and political ideologies. She is co-publisher of Sarah's Seed Journal and has published one book, with number two waiting in the wings. Ms. Marsala holds a master's degree in ancient history and Biblical studies. She is currently working on her degree in bio-ethics and political science. You can visit her web-site for archived and current articles: http://www.right2think.8m.com